we’re in deep contemplation, friends, and need some advice. the boys have been in a great montessori program for exactly one year now. they love their teachers, they are happy and thriving. problem is, it’s about a 40 minute round trip commute, and on my days off work, that pretty much sucks. i’m also less than thrilled with the next two classes the boys will advance into. the vibe i get just passing by the rooms leaves much to be desired.
enter the montessori school one minute from our house. less than one minute, really. my curiosity finally got the better of me and i scheduled a visit before the holidays. i was seriously impressed. great facility, wonderful teachers (although one seemed a little too “in control” of everything), and did i mention it’s less than ONE MINUTE from our house?!? seriously, i could walk the boys to school.
it all sounds too good to by true, no? well, the catch is they require all twins, even siblings, to be in separate classes. their logic makes sense. spliting them up fosters their individuality and autonomy without the dynamic of their twin around. unintended side effects: home life is easier because they are not in each other’s faces every day. the ole’ “absense makes the heart grow fonder,” i guess? i totally get it and even believe it to a certain extent. i’m first in line when it comes to the philosophy of fostering individuality and sense of self. but at age three? not so convinced. i’m even less convinced of this philosophy being policy. and i think it’s downright cruel to expect our kids to transition to a brand new school and, while we’re at it, split them up so they don’t even have each other for support.
i’m torn (no pun intended). i love so much about the school and the convenience aspect just can’t be beat. it just seems like a no-brainer. i’ve even talked to another mom with three-year old twins at the school and she assured me her boys are thriving (although she did say they are learning totally differently and she can’t figure out if it’s a factor of their nature or their classroom/teacher). maybe i’m having so much trouble with it because i hate being pushed into something? i’m thinking of calling them and seeing if they can be in the same class for a transition period and then make the move after their comfortable in the new school. or is that like slowly pulling the bandaid off when it would be better just the rip it off in one felt swoop?
i’ve read that when it comes to splitting up twins, the only right decision is what will be best for your kids. if only i felt that intuitive at this moment. any idea, advice, experiences?